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Alternative Health & Healing:
Transformational Healing
through the Violet Flame!
Today: Radical Self – Acceptance!
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by Eva Kettles |
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I want to start today’s column with a little quote from Rainer Maria Rilke:
“It’s here in all the pieces of my shame
That now I find myself again.
I yearn to belong to something, to be contained
In an all-embracing mind that sees me…..”
I shared with you in my last article that I feel that the expression or form of my own purpose is changing. Before I realized this and accepted it, I had to deal with a lot of tension within me, almost as if a part of me was trying to fight the changes from manifesting.
I wanted to hold on to what is known and I judged myself unkindly and harshly. Being in the position of a healer or teacher or someone that seemingly has all the answers …at least for others…..I didn’t want to accept that I didn’t have any answers to explain my feelings.
Having worked in New York almost 12 hours a day in offering guidance for others, I came to Ojai with a complete new sense of myself. I was not trying to see clients. But I judged myself for not doing so. I felt the need of creating some kind of income, because I felt ashamed depending on my husband’s generosity. But something in me could not take action, because I just wasn’t sure in which direction I should be active. While my frustration and self judgment took on various forms, I created a sinusitis and some other health issues. Of course knowing that every physical blockage has something to do with me, I felt I did something wrong. The spiral of feeling that the cause of my problem was me was getting bigger and bigger. Since everything that happens reflects on me, when something seems wrong, the source of wrong is me. My assumption was that I didn’t know how to take care of myself, but called myself a spiritual healer. I feared that being sick reflected a lack of spiritual “know how”. The defining characteristic of the “trance of separation” is this feeling and fearing of deficiency. Have I not done something that I should have been doing?
All our lives someone is telling us what to do, how to do it and when to do it. If we suddenly don’t do anything, something certainly is wrong in our mind. We keep ourselves busy, occupied just to not have to deal with the pain that arises from feeling mistaken. Why do we feel wrong and mistaken?
We have studied for awhile the Law of cause and effect and of course we have understood that when we do something wrong then we have to deal with discomfort in some level. Our whole life we try to become independent of others, to be not needy, to be self sufficient and strong. Anything that looks like the exact opposite of the perfect idea of our own personality makes us feel vulnerable, weak, disappointed and lonely. We were told to be special, to look a certain way, to act a certain way, to work harder, to win, to succeed, to make a difference and not to be so demanding, shy or loud. Our culture values independence; even the word “neediness” evokes shame. But in truth we all have needs: physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual. So what we are hearing between the lines is “our natural way of living is not okay, not acceptable”.
Sometimes the spiritual path is not very helpful when we go down this street. We sometimes misinterpret teachings and feel even more guilt and shame. We try to be perfect and good and we forget to be alive and to be human. We think, we got it all, we have all the answers until we fall again and wake up. And of course we are trying to get up alone, because we shouldn’t need another!!!! For god sake, let us need each other!
Never in the history of the world has the belief in a separate self been so exaggerated and prevalent as it is now in the twenty-first century in the West. In contrast to other traditional societies, we are trying desperately to identify ourselves as individuals, exclude ourselves of the context of belonging to family, community, tribe or religious group. We are trying with great effort to protect and defend our fragile self and make clear how we are different from each other or much better than another individual. Through these strategies we have separated ourselves from each other and it is now not so easy to find our way back into our human bodies and human hearts. To give in and give up control is the answer. But how do we do this, after such a long time of training and exercise in the opposite direction?
For me the first step is always recognition. I try to recognize my feelings and also my thoughts. Writing them down is one way to see what is going on in oneself. It is really necessary to feel a sense of belonging to oneself, to care about oneself. Every child needs attention, to feel loved and understood. Very seldom we give ourselves this kind of love. We can transform our pain and our mindsets and emotions through the violet flame as shown in the columns 1-3 and accept our state of mind in this present moment. Every thing has a certain rhythm in life and a certain period. Accept a down in your life learn to appreciate yourself just as much, if you think you are not at your best. We live in a world of duality in this 3rd. Dimension. Our experiences include good and bad, God and Evil, day and night.
The cycle of feeling separate and unworthy that is often sustained by our activity of blaming, striving and self-numbing begins to lift when we stop the action. Just discontinue your activity and look within – pay attention to yourself. Give yourself love!
Before you can give yourself love, be all that you feel. You might feel angry, self-hate, hatred, delusion, depression, anxiety and all kinds of things. Give these feelings as much attention as you give your idea of having to stop it right now, because it is not good in your obsession with being perfect.
Ask yourself: “what do I believe?” or “what wants attention or acceptance in this moment?” As you will recognize the mental story and open up to your sense of fear, you will feel that the curtain of darkness will lift before you. And tell yourself: “I care about my own suffering!”
Remember once again, you are not walking this path alone although we are always seem to think we are so alone with our problems. No one else has to deal with what we have to deal. But that is nonsense. The more we see this truth, the more we can reach out, openly share what we try to hide and we can realize once again that we are not our experiences and that our experiences are not there to hurt us or to minimize us. If we step beyond this we can love what felt disgusting about ourselves and embrace what has felt so personal. We reawaken from our feelings of separateness and feel whole and connected in the midst of all life with each and everyone.
Thank you for being a part of my life.
Blessings, Eva
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Eva Kettles,
Spiritual Channel & Healer
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Eva Kettles is a spiritual channel, and guide who offers a sensitive, confidential, non-intrusive, results-oriented approach of clearing the pathway to becoming your True Self….consciously uncovering your Divine Essence.
Mrs. Kettles acts as a “loving detective” to give you clear guidance to your life questions. Working with the healing energy of the Violet Flame, Eva will transform your blocks in all the dimensions that make up your entire being so you can live according to your divine plan and purpose. Release deep seated fears, thought patterns and beliefs that keep you from expressing your authentic self.
Through a process of forgiveness and with the loving presence and help of our spirit guides, Eva enables healing to take place in mind, body, heart and soul. Eva offers individual guidance, fertility counseling, premarital guidance, couples coaching, space clearing and prayer/blessings.
Eva was born and raised in Germany. After finishing business school in Switzerland she discovered her ‘real’ passion for the eternal questions of Life that everybody has, but to which few people discover the answers.
To that end, she decided to become a holistic practitioner. During this education she got a wide background in all available alternative therapy disciplines.
Towards the end of her studies she decided to specialize in Bio-photonic Light Therapy (by Darbic, Dr. Acquillera, France), Frequency/Electrotherapy (Megawave 150), Color puncture, Regenaplex Cellular Therapy (Switzerland), Karma work, Hypnosis and Forgiveness work and opened her own practice first in Munich, than another one in Lucerne, Switzerland. Later, she established a healthy practice in New York City before moving to Ojai, California in March of 2004.
Eva was the protégé of Dr. Gutow in Germany. . He dedicated his whole life to finding out the reasons behind all illnesses. He took into account food, drinks, toxic surroundings or materials, homeopathic remedies in too high frequencies, astral positions, divine paths, karmic constellations, spells, entities and energies that block our good to come forth.
Dr. Gutow could access the highest self or spiritual guidance of each person and discovered that Eva had the ability to do the same work that he was doing. Using the analytical test that was developed by Dr. Gutow, Eva could immediately find out which therapy would work for which client. She explains: “It is like a key and a lock. We have to find the right key to unlock our good. Some keys work, some don’t!”
Having been blessed with many teachers, including Nadeen Shatyam , she learned that once you trust your inner voice you become connected to the universal truth and you do not need to look outside of yourself.
Everything is within us when we finally learn to believe it. Her goal is to help you to find and establish that trust in yourself. Having walked the path to self return, she knows how to guide others.
Phone:(805) 646-9399
www.uncoveryouressence.com
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