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Alternative Health & Healing:
Transformational Healing
through the Violet Flame!
Today’s Subject: Our "idea of the ideal" blocks the "real deal" from happening!
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I got a phone-call from my girlfriend over the weekend. She was devastated and was feeling very sad. Her marriage seemed to be falling apart, because none of her expectations and ideals seemed to be being met. She felt that her husband didn't care about her anymore and was trying to hurt her in every way he could. She had just become a first time mom and she also felt that a lot of her misery was to blame on having given birth and that like in other marriages the husbands are seeing their wives only for the 'mother of their child' instead as their wife, partner and lover. But I remembered their relationship from before and the same pattern was already in place, maybe just not as consciously visible in my friends eyes.
I am telling you this story for one reason. We all have moments like this! We feel nothing we do is appreciated, heard or seen by our partner or people we care about. We try to please them by becoming more like what we think they want us to be. We lose ourselves because all day long we think about what we did wrong and we force ourselves to find the mistakes in us. By doing this we focus on what is wrong and we actually ask the universe for more of exactly that what we don't want in our life. We concentrate on all the things we don't really want in our life in order to find a way out of them. This is not the solution, because we are losing more and more of our power and our real authenticity.
When I asked my friend about her feelings for her mate she said she really loves him so much. I said what do you love exactly about him? Because listening to her all evening long it seemed there was nothing to love about him. This question made her listen up and she realized that she loved the ideal image that she created of her husband. But in her reality of this moment her husband was not matching anything of that image. She tried to change him, like we all have tried in one relationship or another!!! By making her partner aware of what didn't match - her characteristics of her ideal, she actually allowed him to feel inadequate and therefore he made her feel inadequate as well. Now - she is not matching his ideal anymore, because she has become a nagging wife asking for intimacy and love but not realizing that she made it impossible by holding on to an ideal.
Each person is fully perfect and complete -- it just needs the eyes to see and recognize that. If we could all find these glasses that are glasses of love and praise for each other, we would create goddesses and gods all around us. They are already there, but we need to wake up and receive the qualities that are waiting to be given to us. But therefore we need to see our husbands and wives for who they truly are and can be and support them in their personal journey and unfoldment.
It might show up in a different way for them than we figured out for them. We need to trust their Full Potential Self leading them down the perfect path. We need to stand aside and believe in their potential rather than being disappointed one day after another. We need to focus on ourselves before we focus on our partner. We need to find love for who we are in our deepest soul. Recognize our strengths, our greatness so that we don't give anyone the power to take that away from us. We don't have to let anyone make us believe that we are weak and not enough. That is anyway only what the same people believe about themselves before someone else made them feel this way. It just suddenly finds an outlet and we can blame someone for making us feel a certain way. Our insecurities exist before someone else makes us insecure.
The solution is always starting with our own Self. We all need to come back to our potential and live up to it and mature all "holodynes" that block our expression to the fullest of our beingness. ( I referred to "holodynes" in my last 2 articles)
Only like this we can change the perception of our own being for our Self and in others about us. Every change has an effect and changing and transforming our Self is helping others to match the energy field. It almost doesn't give them any other chance than to rearrange their own being in order to interact with us. We are all connected and it is so beautiful to watch couples transform their relationships even if only one partner actively does the work.
When you try to please others by giving them what you think they want - you are not being authentic - you actually block them from seeing your real Self. That's why they won't respect you, why they can walk all over you and by trying to match their ideal why you don't achieve your objective: that they like you any better! So for what reason would you choose to please someone then???
If you stop caring so much about what others think about you - you become authentic and one with your own individuality and that is when people see you and really like you for who you are, because authenticity resonates with the true part in every other person. WE all know and feel what truth is and looks like.
So just be YOU and let go of your ideal image of yourself or any other person. Let them be who they are and find what makes them who they are and fall in love with that. Like this you shift your consciousness into "seeing with eyes of love" and this will shift the way we all see and respond towards each other and heaven on earth is created.
Well done!
Much love,
Eva
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Eva Kettles,
Spiritual Channel & Healer
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Eva Kettles is a spiritual channel, and guide who offers a sensitive, confidential, non-intrusive, results-oriented approach of clearing the pathway to becoming your True Self….consciously uncovering your Divine Essence.
Mrs. Kettles acts as a “loving detective” to give you clear guidance to your life questions. Working with the healing energy of the Violet Flame, Eva will transform your blocks in all the dimensions that make up your entire being so you can live according to your divine plan and purpose. Release deep seated fears, thought patterns and beliefs that keep you from expressing your authentic self.
Through a process of forgiveness and with the loving presence and help of our spirit guides, Eva enables healing to take place in mind, body, heart and soul. Eva offers individual guidance, fertility counseling, premarital guidance, couples coaching, space clearing and prayer/blessings.
Eva was born and raised in Germany. After finishing business school in Switzerland she discovered her ‘real’ passion for the eternal questions of Life that everybody has, but to which few people discover the answers.
To that end, she decided to become a holistic practitioner. During this education she got a wide background in all available alternative therapy disciplines.
Towards the end of her studies she decided to specialize in Bio-photonic Light Therapy (by Darbic, Dr. Acquillera, France), Frequency/Electrotherapy (Megawave 150), Color puncture, Regenaplex Cellular Therapy (Switzerland), Karma work, Hypnosis and Forgiveness work and opened her own practice first in Munich, than another one in Lucerne, Switzerland. Later, she established a healthy practice in New York City before moving to Ojai, California in March of 2004.
Eva was the protégé of Dr. Gutow in Germany. . He dedicated his whole life to finding out the reasons behind all illnesses. He took into account food, drinks, toxic surroundings or materials, homeopathic remedies in too high frequencies, astral positions, divine paths, karmic constellations, spells, entities and energies that block our good to come forth.
Dr. Gutow could access the highest self or spiritual guidance of each person and discovered that Eva had the ability to do the same work that he was doing. Using the analytical test that was developed by Dr. Gutow, Eva could immediately find out which therapy would work for which client. She explains: “It is like a key and a lock. We have to find the right key to unlock our good. Some keys work, some don’t!”
Having been blessed with many teachers, including Nadeen Shatyam , she learned that once you trust your inner voice you become connected to the universal truth and you do not need to look outside of yourself.
Everything is within us when we finally learn to believe it. Her goal is to help you to find and establish that trust in yourself. Having walked the path to self return, she knows how to guide others.
Phone:(805) 646-9399
www.uncoveryour
essence.com
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