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Feng Shui: Wind & Water

Romancing the Home with Feng Shui
by Carole J. Hyder
I have been witness to four weddings in the last eleven years all because, I believe, the power of Feng Shui brought about some changes. There have probably been others of which I’m not aware. I do know there have been countless relationships that have improved by incorporating some small adjustment in the home or bedroom.


I decided to put together a checklist so that any one, married or not, can access and enhance the romance in our lives. This list is comprised of suggestions only. It doesn’t mean you have to do all of them. In fact, I’d suggest you pick two or three of your favorites and do those first. Then let some time pass before incorporating any other changes. These suggestions are intended for the adults of the house. Some of them would not be appropriate for small children.


When I speak of the Partnership area of the house, there are a couple ways in which to locate this spot. Two primary schools of thought have evolved using Feng Shui principles. The more traditional way uses a compass to determine where the Partnership area is located. In the compass perspective, the southwest direction reflects any issues with relationships or personal partners. You’d want to locate what part of your house is facing that direction—that would be your Partnership area.


A more recent school of thought proposed by Professor Thomas Lin Yun uses the front door as the orientation regardless of which direction the door is facing. The Partnership area is consistently in the back right corner of the space. You will have a Partnership area in the back right corner of the whole house and in the back right corner of your bedroom based on the entry to that bedroom. It’s up to you to decide which train of thought you want to follow---back right corner or southwest.


Keep in mind Partnership can mean a relationship with someone else or with yourself. Sometimes it’s more important to get a healthy relationship going with yourself first before launching into a relationship with another person. The partnership might be simply companionship with someone else. It can be an intimate relationship which doesn’t necessarily have to lead to marriage or it can be a long-term partnership for same-sex relationships.


So here’s to finding the romance your heart is looking for. I hope you make it an enjoyable process----think of it as "fun" shui. And remember----there are no guarantees.


•If the Partnership area of your home is where your bedroom is located, that is great. Keep the room picked up and clutter-free.

• If the Partnership area of your home is in the garage, keep the garage swept out and don’t let things pile up.

• If the Partnership area of your home is where your kitchen is located, that is also a good place. You could really get things cooking!

•If there’s a fireplace in your Partnership area, this is also good. Sparks might fly.

• If your home office is in your Partnership area, be careful you don’t get married to your job.

•If one of your children has their bedroom in the Partnership area of the house, place a picture of you and your partner in that room.

• Make sure the Partnership area of your bedroom is cleaned out.

•If you’re seriously looking for a partner, don’t place your garbage cans or waste baskets in the Partnership area.

•If possible, incorporate the color pink or red in the Partnership area of your home and/or bedroom, i.e. a small red candle, a rose quartz heart, pink or red flowers.

•Arrange your furniture in the family room so your chair and your partner’s chair (or future partner’s chair) are at a 90 degree angle to one another----not side-by-side and not opposite each other, but 90 degrees. It makes for better conversation and communication.

• Place pairs of items in the Partnership area of your home and/or bedroom. Pairs of pillows, two candles, two plants, two small chairs, to name a few.

•Go for a look of romance and intimacy in your bedroom, even if you’re single---especially if you’re single.

•Replace the bed if it was used during another relationship. At least get new sheets and pillows.

• Check to see how many pictures of single people you have in your home. Get rid of them if you don’t want to remain single.

• Move stuffed animals or toys of any kind you may have in your bedroom to another room in your space. This should be an "adult" area.

•Refrain from placing photos of anyone other than you and your spouse in the bedroom. Photos of children (even of you as a little kid), parents (dead or alive), friends, relatives do not belong in your private space.

•Have a headboard on your bed for support and backing.

• Have a solid headboard so your support will feel solid behind you.

• Position your bed so you can see the entrance to the room, but are not sitting directly in line with this entrance. You’ll sleep better.

•Store your books anywhere but in your bedroom. Books are too "noisy," giving off too much energy, disturbing sleep.

•Set up your computer anywhere but in your bedroom to eliminate a mixed message about what the room is being used for.

•Store nothing under the bed. You want the ch’i to flow freely.

•Watch television in your living room, eliminating the need for a TV in your bedroom. The bedroom is for sleep and intimacy, remember?

•Paint your bedroom walls your favorite color and a color that looks good on you. Avoid white.

•Make sure anything that’s broken or needs repair in the bedroom is attended to (squeaky door, windows that don’t open, light fixture that doesn’t work, dresser drawers that stick).

•Try to do your work-out routine somewhere other than in your bedroom. It activates the energy in there and may keep you up at night.

•Don’t sleep with your head under a window----not only is it a health issue but it doesn’t give you as good a rest as you might think.

•Don’t sleep under a sky-light—see above.

• Put a round rug in your foyer if you live in a split entry home to lessen the message of division and separation.

•Bring nine pink flowers into the bedroom, symbolic of life and growth. Silk is okay.

• If you have a choice, sleep in a bedroom in the back of the house. It’s a quieter, safer place.

•Hang a windchime in the Partnership area of your home or your bedroom to activate the relationship.

•If your bedroom is close to the front of the house, make a habit of keeping the door closed so total strangers can’t look into your place of intimacy.

• Have as many round things in your bedroom as possible----round night-stands, round pillows on the bed, round shapes in a picture. Round or oval shapes are indicative of harmony and cooperation.

• Have matching or similar night-stands beside the bed for an equal relationship.

• Place matching or similar lamps on each of the night-stands so each partner has control over their own light.

•Close your closet doors at night for better sleep.

•Ditto your bathroom door.

•Avoid sleeping under a beam as it can "divide" the people who sleep under it, even if there’s no one else in bed with you.

•Avoid sleeping over a garage as it signifies little or no support for yourself.

•Avoid sleeping with a toilet on the other side of the wall. It can affect your health.

•If you want a partnership, make room in your closet for someone else’s things.

•Think of your bedroom as a sanctuary or a nest. Keep it cozy.

• Unless you’re sick, don’t make a habit of eating in your bedroom.

•Keep the number of mirrors in your bedroom to a minimum. None is preferable. If you MUST have a mirror, don’t hang it at the foot of the bed.

•Refrain from having one side of the bed up against a wall. One partner will feel trapped----obviously the one by the wall.

•Drape over-sized windows so too much ch’i doesn’t escape during the night.

• And finally, whenever appropriate wear pink or red clothing (even if it’s not seen!) to reinforce your intention of creating the relationship of your dreams.
Carole J. Hyder,
Feng Shui consultant, speaker, teacher, author and trainer.
Carole J. Hyder has accomplished success as a Feng Shui consultant, speaker, teacher, author and trainer.


She has been a Feng Shui consultant since 1992, having studied with Professor Thomas Lin Yun and Roger Green, both master teachers in their respective philosophies of Feng Shui.


She has facilitated hundreds of private residential and commercial consultations in both traditions. She is co-founder and president of the Feng Shui Institute of the Midwest, an organization dedicated to creating standards for practitioners, providing continuing education and community outreach.


Besides being published in countless publications and writing a monthly column for "The Edge," Carole has published two books. Wind and Water: Your Personal Feng Shui Journey is in its fifth edition, has world-wide distribution and has been translated into Spanish and German. Her second book Living Feng Shui: Personal Stories was released in September 2001.


Carole currently spends her time presenting seminars and keynotes. She has developed a six-part training program, Wind and Water School of Feng Shui, which is now licensed by the State of MN.



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