 |
|
 |
| |
| Departments |
Home
Columns, Special
Topics & Features:
The Columns:
Angels, Guides, &
Loving Spirits:
Angel Blessings:
with Dr. Doreen Virtue
Ask Valerie Morrison,
Internationally
Acclaimed Psychic
Astrologer's Notes:
Ask Carrin Martin,
Astrologer
Basil Fearrington,
Astrologer
Diana Stone,
Astrologer &
Huna Shaman
Jeff Jawer
Astrologer
Martin Lass,
Astrologer
Glenn Perry,
Astrologer
Ray Merriman,
Financial Astrology:
MMA Market Week
Erin Sullivan,
Astrologer
Noel Tyl,
Astrologer
Daily Aspect Calendar
by Care
Monthly Horoscope:
Stellar Scopes
by Daija De Mornay
Creating Bridges:
The Spiritual &
Philosophical
Act of Power
Discovering the Key to Living Your Sacred Dream
by Lynn Andrews
The BUT Doctor
Healing America's Real Crack Problem One Person at a Time
by Eddie Conner
Awakening to the
Miracle of Ordinary Life by Dennis Lewis
Avant-Gardening:
Insights by Frank &
Vicky Giannangelo
Bodymind Integration: A Psychology of Potential
by Kevin Roberts
Breaking Free:
Anne Brewer
Choices: The Art of Conscious Creation:
by Teri Harris Saa
From The Heart:
Alan Cohen
Teachings from the Western Mystery Traditions: The Esoteric "Paths of Return"
by Jacquelyn Small, Eupsychia
"Letters from Heaven:" Spiritual Guidance from
the Hebrew Alphabet
by Avigayil Landsman
Memos From The
First Tabugian
Art Rosengarten, Ph.D.
The Path of Wisdom and Love
Dr. John Demartini,
Spirituality in Daily Life: by Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron
The Conscious Column
by David Ault
Mythology & Legends
Pearls of Wisdom:
with Care
Feng Shui:
Wind & Water:
Carole J. Hyder
In Practice:
How to Create a Successful Holistic Practice- from Start to Success
by Shaun Brown,
CMT, BA BeWell Publications
The Business of Tarot
by Bonnie Cehovet,
Tarot Master
Parenting:
Living With Your
Intuitive Child:
Sherry Healy
Pet Care:
Dr. Carson's Holistic Animal Care
by Dr. Kathleen Carson, D.V.M.
Tarot:
Soulforest:
Tarot and Spirituality
Rachel Pollack,
Tarot Grand Master
Gateway to Tarot:
by Bonnie Cehovet,
Tarot Master
Reviews:
Tarot, Cartomancy,
Oracle Decks,
Books, & Software.
by Bonnie Cehovet,
Tarot Master
Bonnie Cehovet's
Tarot Interviews
Humor:
Wake Up Laughing.Com:
Swami Beyondananda
Features:
Blessings & Messages
Crystals, Gemstones & Minerals by Kristi of MoonCave
Event Calendar
Historical Notes & Data
The MetaPersonals
Symbols, Seals,
Amulets & Talismans
The What in the
World Department
Trivia & Other
Novel Moments
Your Views
Interviews:
Coming Soon
Healing & Alternative
Health:
"The Ancient Way of Chinese Medicine"
by Kevin O'Neil
Flower Essences
by Donna Cunningham
Herbology:
Ron Norwood
Living in Harmony-Astrology, Yoga & Ayurveda:
Venkat & Christine Machiraju
"Spirit and Practice
of the Wise Woman
Tradition"
By Susun Weed
Tai Chi & Qigong
by Bill Douglas
The Holistic Mystic,
by Lonny Brown
Medical Intuition: Tune
in to Your Body and Improve Your Health
by Caroline Sutherland, Sutherland Communications
Tools for Heartful Living
by Jackie Woods,
Healer & Spiritual Teacher,
Adawehi Institute
The Directory
The Book Nook
Archives:
Past Issues
General Information:
Synopsis of Contents
Editorial Submission
Information:
Articles
Columns
Editorial Opinions
"Your Views"
General Content
Event Calendars
Graphics & Photos
Editorial Deadlines
Advertising
Information &
Opportunities
About
The Meta Arts
Magazine
Department
Contacts:
Publishers
Editorial
Advertising Sales
Graphic Design
Promotion Dept.
Employment
Contact Us
Legal Notices
|
|
|
|
|
|
Alternative Health & Healings:
Tools for Heartful Living
Supporting Your
Child's Intimacy
|
|
|
by Jackie Woods |
|
|
Every child is born with a personality that, depending on environment, is either is given a chance to blossom or to wither. There are some parents who believe making little clones out of their children is the proper way to parent, but many others want more than anything else in the whole world, to give their child room to become the flower that was intended. The question that all parents face is, "How do I expand my personality to make room for theirs?"
Unfortunately, breaking down rules and boundaries isn't the answer. Obviously, giving a child "free rein" to express without defining appropriate forms for them to express through, can lead to total chaos inside and outside of the child. That path would make room for _expression, but the goal is to make room for healthy _expression. It is also important for the parent's _expression to be honored. Unstructured children tend to run over the boundaries that support the parent. The goal is to support your child in being different than you are, not to eliminate you or the child.
Most people feel their choice of politics, country, religion or even eating, is better than all other people's choices. The consciousness of our world today holds great judgment for anything that is different. How does one change that way of thinking? How do you expand to allow for differences and not lose your own personal space and choices?
You may choose not to have preferences or definitions in your life. This does not necessarily mean you have made room for others' choices, nor does it make you a bigger person with a bigger space. If you define your space to allow for the healthy choices of another person and for yours to coexist, both you and the other person will be supported in becoming the script of your original personalities.
Let me share an example. I was eating in a restaurant next to a little four or five year old and her mother, and overheard their conversation. The Mother asked the child why she threw a fit at kindergarten. The child replied simply, "I missed you so much Mommy that I cried and cried, and threw a fit." The wise mother's response was, "It is ok to miss me, but Mrs. Jones has twenty children to see about, so could you miss me without throwing a fit?" The child said she could, and that was that. This child was being taught that she had a right to miss her Mommy and a right to be herself, but that there were choices that would better fit her and the situation.
Let's try another example. A friend of mine birthed a very angry child. By age two, this child would scream and try to bang her head against the floor to express her anger. The mother would hold the child to keep her from hurting herself, but would allow her to scream. By age three, the child had expressed all her anger. While it might have been difficult, the mother chose to support the child in her choice to be angry, but not in her choice to hurt herself.
Small children aren't capable of making big life choices, but they can make small ones. By giving your child a choice between two things you begin to recognize their preferences. For example, don't just buy one flavor of juice - buy two. Then give your child a choice. Try branching out a little farther. Let them choose between soy milk and cow's milk. You may only like one kind of milk, but let your child have a choice that goes beyond your choice. After all, their body chemistry may be entirely different than yours.
I have two granddaughters who are sisters. They are as different as day and night. One's basic personality holds a lot of recklessness and passion. The other one is reserved and cautious. If my goal were to "bring out" the quiet one or "hold back" the outgoing one, I would be dishonoring the seed in each of them that wants to become its own kind of flower.
Supporting each child in who they are means giving them each rules that fit who they want to become. This means I teach the reserved and cautious one how to relate to others while supporting her reserved and cautious way of doing so. I teach the other one how to be safe while being passionate and reckless. I must always keep in mind that one child's choice of movies, books, clothes, etc., will be completely different from the other child's choices.
Think about why you had children. If it was to have cute little things to love, or to prove you could be a different parent than your parents were, or to have someone in your life who would love you, then this article will not help you. However, if your intent was to bring life into being, you are on the same page as this piece of writing.
Since life is as varied as our surroundings, giving life to a child means allowing your view of life to be broadened. This means you will have to give up having all the answers. It means you will have to move away from the "better than, less than" philosophy that is so popular today. It means you will need to stop defending or apologizing for who you are, and start accepting yourself as one of the many types of flowers that life offers.
Once you understand everyone needs support in expressing their basic personality, you will begin to find ways to do this. This new way of relating to your child, and to others, may take you out of your comfort zone. You will have to learn to look at the person, not their patterns. If a person's choice fits their basic personality, it is a good one. If it fits their patterns, it is probably made for the wrong reasons and doesn't support them in being part of life. Children learn patterns that don't fit them, just as adults do. Learn to support your child's person, rather than the patterns - no matter how different the child's basic personality is from your own.
I hope that you will start looking at your child as a piece of universal life. Your child is someone who is here to add his or her own kind of beauty to the world, a beauty that is different than yours. Support your child in making choices that fit the personality they were born wearing. Expand your views of life and give up the limitations that block that expansion. I am not here to tell you parenting is easy, but through learning to support your child's personality, it can be very expanding and fulfilling.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Jackie Woods
Healer & Spiritual Teacher
|
 |
Jackie Woods' training in the "metaphysical school of psychic instruction" began with her first moments of life. She was born with a psychic gift, which became the vehicle for her training by three Spirit Guides and several Angels.
In her small Midwest hometown, people looked askance at anything that couldn't be seen, touched, or proven. Her mother gave Jackie good advice by cautioning her not to tell anyone what she "heard" or "saw". Jackie's gift grew until she was mature enough for its unveiling as an adult.
After much resistance on her part, the unveiling of Jackie's gift did happen. She finally surrendered to use her ability to see and work with energy. Jackie began her mission of bringing healing to the planet by lifting unhealthy energy patterns from people's auras, and by instructing them on how to find their heart's truth.
Jackie began her career as a healer and spiritual teacher in Atlanta, Georgia, in 1978. As news traveled that this woman could really change a person's life, people began coming to her in droves. By 1985, she had a three year waiting list. Over the years she has touched and changed the lives of thousands through her courses, seminars, and individual sessions.
In 1998, Jackie moved from Atlanta to Columbus, North Carolina, where she founded the Adawehi (Ah-dah-way-hee) Healing Center. This facility is used to support people in healing all four of their bodies (spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical). Alternative forms of natural healing are offered, such as Awareness Courses, Spiritual Growth Counseling, Energy Work, Deep Tissue Massage, Non-force Chiropractic, Color & Sound Therapy, Meditations, Classes, and Interactive Workshops. Jackie's Awareness Courses are also available via the Internet.
In December 2002, construction was completed on the Adawehi Institute. This 8000 square foot facility allows Jackie to take her teachings to larger audiences and to make available a wider range of healers and teachers.
As an author, Jackie has published two books; Journey to Ultimate Spirituality and Spiritual Energy Cycles; an audio tape, Meditation and Needs; a CD, Four Way Mental Communication and Emotional Sharing, and several magazine and Internet articles. She has been interviewed on television and radio, in Internet chat rooms, and by newspapers.
www.jackiewoods.org |
 |
You'll find it in
The
Directory!
|
|
|
|
|
